I wouldn't necessarily call myself a girly girl. I hate frilly pink things and I can definitely leave my place without makeup. But I do enjoy girly things from time to time. I like makeup and nail polish (my nails are pretty much never naked). I also like to smell good and all that jazz. And when I worked in an office, all of that seemed like a normal habit. It was almost effortless. It was especially easy when I was dating and meeting new guys. But now that I work from home (and I'm married), it's a whole other story. My daily get up usually consists of cozy pants and a shirt. Sometimes I don't get out of my pajamas or shower until the end of the day. I know it's not that bad (yet), but I've noticed that sometimes I don't really feel like me and it's starting to affect other things (like my willingness to go out or be romantic with Mr. T or, you know, put pants on ever again). So I realized the other day that I need to shake things up. Just because I work from home doesn't mean I don't need to put any effort into feeling good about myself. I read a few articles on working from home tips and here are seven things I'm doing so I don't feel blah because I work from home.
1. Sometimes I get pretty for the hell of it.
Really. I do. I get up, take a shower, do my hair and makeup and put on real clothes. It doesn't matter if I am leaving the apartment or not, it's just to make me feel good.
2. I've established a much better (and more consistent morning routine).
Ok, I sort of fell off the wagon last month, but let's just not count that, OK? But really, I've found that having a routine, like you would if you were working outside the home, really helps. I get up, brush my teeth, take a shower, put on pants, and start my day.
3. I've stopped only buying yoga pants and leggings (and stopped saving my nice stuff for when I leave the apartment).
I used to only wear comfy clothes while I was working. All of my nice shirts, sweaters, and dresses were always saved for when I was actually leaving the apartment. And I would always feel guilty if I bought something really nice because I didn't think I would wear it. I think I was always worried I would ruin something or that it would be dirty when I wanted to wear it out or that it wouldn't feel the same because I wore it as something comfy. But I am really working to change my attitude about that. Clothes can be washed and I am not five-years-old so it's not likely I will ruin something. Now I wear whatever I want.
4. I've made sure to continue (mostly) with all of my normal cosmetic things.
I still get monthly hair cuts and color. I still groom my eyebrows and other hairy places.
5. I've stopped holding on to crappy clothes.
I am not sure if I should admit this out loud. But I maybe had a habit of holding on to things that had a little hole or a little spot on it just because I could get away with wearing it around the apartment since no one was really seeing me. I didn't often wear it, but I still kept it. What ended up happening is I would actually feel guilty when I bought new things because I already had eight shirts (or whatever) at home. That's just ridiculous. I would never do that if I worked in an office. So now when something has a hole it goes away.
6. I've made sure that Mr. T and I have a date night and that I treat it like a special night just like I did when we were dating.
One of the biggest issues I had was falling into the routine of sitting on the couch in leggings or pajamas and watching TV with Mr. T every night. That was a date when we were dating. And while sometimes it still is, the problem is that it becomes too much of a routine and then it's not very fun and romantic anymore. It also was an issue because I didn't really feel pretty when I was sitting there with him. I mean, when we were dating, I would still get ready for him to come over (or to go to his place). So now we make sure to have a date night at least once a week and even if it's just cozying on the couch with each other and our TV, we still treat it special.
7. I'm working on getting out of the apartment
One of the best things about being married is that you don't have to leave the apartment to see your favorite person on the planet. But that kind of makes it difficult when you also work from home. I fell into the habit of only leaving when I had to go do something. So now I am working on going for walks or something just because.
Honestly, the biggest thing I've learned is that it's all about balance (like pretty much everything in life). It's OK to spend a day or two in pajamas. It's also OK to not do your hair every day. But the key is making sure you're not doing it all the time. Everything is fine in moderation.