Love yourself. Have respect for yourself. Be confident. Let others love you. Appreciate what you have and where you are in life. And, don't be sad about the past. Be proud that it helped you be who you are. And, of course, if you're not happy with who you are then work to be happy. Do whatever it takes. It might seem like a long journey (ugh I hate that word!), but it's so worth it in the end.