Life Isn't A Competition

Photo credit: Bilal Kamoon (Flickr) The other day I wrote about that whole meternity leave thing and it really made me start to think about competition. And I really just felt the need to write about it. To let it out. Put it out there in the world.

Why are we always competing with each other?


Why do we always want to be like someone else? Why do we want our lives to look like someone else's?

And I don't say that to judge because I include myself here. I've confessed on more than one occasion about how I compare myself to others.

See how I compare my relationship with others, how social media is ruining my life, and my battle with self-doubt.

But really, why do we (especially women) always put ourselves up against others?

It's always that the grass is greener on the other side. It's always about what someone else has that we don't and how that's unfair.

Side note: I know this is actually a problem in some cases so I'm not speaking to those cases. I'm talking more superficial where the injustice is a little more perceived and less reality.

The truth is, we aren't enemies. The grass on the other side is just grass. And maybe it does look greener, but ours might look that way as well.

I have things other people are envious of. Other people have things that I'm envious of. That's just life. There's nothing you can do about it and it really isn't as sad as we make it out to be.

Other people probably have a lot more money than Mr. T and I do. They can afford luxuries we can't. But I'm able to devote all of my time to my business and the home and other things I want to. That's a luxury lots of people don't have.

I'm envious of people who are book smart, but other people wish they were creative smart.

There are so many things I could name, but it's not a competition. Life is not a competition of who has it best or who did it best. Because, honestly, I'm not sure anyone would win. I don't think any one person can say who's doing life best because there's no way to tell.

And maybe some of us do really suck at it, but really how can you tell? It's an uphill battle.

So maybe we should stop competing. And instead just do our thing. Maybe even help others do their thing.

Because life isn't a competition y'all.