Here's a not very well known fact about me -- I actually never wanted a wedding.
I mean, I did when I was younger and all that. But not really as an adult. I always thought I would elope. I didn't think it would be a secret or anything, but I just didn't want a wedding. I didn't want people staring at me. I didn't want to wear a big white dress. I didn't want to be all mushy in front of people.
Mr. T, however, wanted a wedding and he's actually the person who talked me into it. Yep, you read that right. The groom wanted the wedding and talked the bride into it. And I wore a white dress.
Now that it's a year later (and definitely even before this) I am so incredibly happy that we decided to have a wedding.
Here's why a wedding was worth it for me.
- That moment, where we became husband and wife, was so incredibly important and special. And having all of our friends and family around us at that moment was pretty spectacular.
- I love having all of the memories (including some really great pictures).
- Planning was fun. Granted it was incredibly stressful, but still fun.
- It was the perfect opp to get all of our friends and family together. I saw friends that I haven't seen in quite some time.
- It really is an occasion for a huge celebration. And, well, celebrating anything is awesome. Celebrating love is even more awesome.
The thing is, a wedding can really be whatever you want it to be. Having a wedding doesn't mean you have to have some over-the-top, extremely elaborate affair (unless you want to). A wedding can be anything you want it to be. You can invite 700 people or 7 people. You can have it in a church or in a park or at a hotel or at your house.
I also realized somewhere along the line, that I think I didn't want a wedding because I was too caught up in "fighting the man." I was trying so hard to be non-traditional that I wasn't actually thinking about what I truly wanted. And, well, that's just as bad as someone who gets all caught up in the madness of having a wedding.
So, have a wedding or don't have a wedding. But just make sure that you're making the right decision for you (both you personally and you as a couple). I honestly believe I would have regretted it if we didn't have a wedding so I'm really glad we did.