Why A Wedding Was Worth It (For Me)

Here's a not very well known fact about me -- I actually never wanted a wedding.

I mean, I did when I was younger and all that. But not really as an adult. I always thought I would elope. I didn't think it would be a secret or anything, but I just didn't want a wedding. I didn't want people staring at me. I didn't want to wear a big white dress. I didn't want to be all mushy in front of people.

Mr. T, however, wanted a wedding and he's actually the person who talked me into it. Yep, you read that right. The groom wanted the wedding and talked the bride into it. And I wore a white dress.

Now that it's a year later (and definitely even before this) I am so incredibly happy that we decided to have a wedding.

Here's why a wedding was worth it for me.

  1. That moment, where we became husband and wife, was so incredibly important and special. And having all of our friends and family around us at that moment was pretty spectacular.
  2. I love having all of the memories (including some really great pictures).
  3. Planning was fun. Granted it was incredibly stressful, but still fun.
  4. It was the perfect opp to get all of our friends and family together. I saw friends that I haven't seen in quite some time.
  5. It really is an occasion for a huge celebration. And, well, celebrating anything is awesome. Celebrating love is even more awesome.

The thing is, a wedding can really be whatever you want it to be. Having a wedding doesn't mean you have to have some over-the-top, extremely elaborate affair (unless you want to). A wedding can be anything you want it to be. You can invite 700 people or 7 people. You can have it in a church or in a park or at a hotel or at your house.

I also realized somewhere along the line, that I think I didn't want a wedding because I was too caught up in "fighting the man." I was trying so hard to be non-traditional that I wasn't actually thinking about what I truly wanted. And, well, that's just as bad as someone who gets all caught up in the madness of having a wedding.

So, have a wedding or don't have a wedding. But just make sure that you're making the right decision for you (both you personally and you as a couple). I honestly believe I would have regretted it if we didn't have a wedding so I'm really glad we did.